Toxic people don’t live in the realm of reality because the reality of their behavior is pretty crappy, which could lead them to crappy consequences. Therefore, they invest a great deal of energy creating distraction from truth. There are many tactics that they use–gaslighting, projection, smearing–but it all comes down to their penchant for chaos. Narcissists create chaos for a very simple reason–to distract you and outside observers from the very simple truth of their abusive behavior. Recognizing this behavior for what it is–manufactured distraction–has been an important step for me in recovering from narcissistic abuse and protecting myself from the narcissist’s / sociopath’s aggression.
Question: Is there a “typical” relationship between the narcissist and his family? Answer: We are all members of a few families in our lifetime: the one that we are born to and the one(s) that we create. We all transfer hurts, attitudes, fears, hopes and desires – a whole emotional baggage – from the former to the latter. The narcissist is no exception.
The Narcissist’s tool bag contains their money. This tool is often used to triangulate between the siblings leaving the Golden Child to keep feeding supply to the Narcissist. In other words, the primary goal of money in the narcissistic family dynamic is to favoritize the golden child and devalue the scapegoat. – SNN Editor
Toxic people such as malignant narcissists, psychopaths and those with antisocial traits engage in maladaptive behaviors in relationships that ultimately exploit, demean and hurt their intimate partners, family members and friends. They use a plethora of diversionary tactics that distort the reality of their victims and deflect responsibility. Although those who are not narcissistic can employ these tactics as well, abusive narcissists use these to an excessive extent in an effort to escape accountability for their actions. Here are the 20 diversionary tactics toxic people use to silence and degrade you.
The Jamila Marie Morton Show – My Personal Journey with an Obsessive Narcissistic Stalker (homeless/jobless in seven months)
It appears that narcissists do not go through the 7 stages like other people do. The smallest infraction will send them right to level 7-rage.
Narcissists are afraid, very much afraid of awakened people who know themselves and seek to know the truth. Narcissists, therefore, are terrified of awakened people because they are rescuing victims of narcissistic abuse to stop being used as supplies to narcissists and empowering them to expose narcissists for who they are and for the consequences of what they do. Wakened people are helping victims of narcissistic abuse victims to no longer give in in to fears and to unite against narcissists. The writing’s on the wall. Nothing is going to change until we get together and make the changes and they’re terrified of that.
Narcissists are characterized by their extreme selfishness, lack of empathy, and craving for admiration which they get through status and power. With grandiose thinking and arrogance, they demand that others treat them as special or superior.
[TRIGGER WARNING] I’m terrified of my parents. Yep, terrified. You may look at me askance, because there was very little physical abuse in my family. So, why am I terrified? Because, in a homespun “lite” way, they played the Meryl Streep to my Liev Schreiber (The Manchurian Candidate: 2004). They control my mind. Mind Control. Say What!?
8 must watch movies depicting narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder.
Concealeds are the most clever, cunning forms of narcissists. They hide behind their impeccable images of pseudo empathy, self effacement, even holiness.
We all have some lust in our hearts–for gorgeous clothes, sex, delicious food, exquisite jewelry. Many narcissists are obsessed with money lust. They are thinking about how much money they have, how to get more of it, how to keep it away from others, whom to manipulate to get more, including family members to take theirs. Money is their substitution for love, warmth, affection—for being authentic and human. Having as much money as possible, even stealing it away from family members, is the narcissist’s constant goal.
When or if you achieve some level of success in life, whether as big as a prestigious award or as small as a compliment , the narcissist is going to hate you for it. You can bet your money on that one. Obviously, success draws its share of admiration, but it’s guaranteed to rouse some hate as well. So why does the narcissist hate you when are successful? I think there are four basic reasons.
Narcissism Survivor discusses the four stages of pain when recovering from narcissistic abuse.
Gaslighting is more pervasive than most people know. It is a phenomenon that can have personal, psychological, traumatic, societal and political ramifications.
If you have a narcissistic parent, you’ve experienced narcissistic rage. But because narcissists are as individual as anyone else, you may have experienced it without recognizing it for what is really is.
The energy that narcissists often choose to embody is that of a lower vibrational frequency; hence, they are seductive, suggestive, hostile, aggressive, deceptive, mischievous, perverse and destructive.
Unfortunately, within a dysfunctional family, one of the games that narcissistic parents like to do is turn siblings against one another in order to obtain supply.